Finding My Voice: Speaking Up About My Life Behind Closed Doors

Joining me in this week's episode is Lorene Roberts, a holistic counsellor and root cause therapist who specialises in helping women navigate life's challenging transitions, like divorce. Her inspiring story of transformation and resilience is not just a story about overcoming adversity; it’s about the profound journey of self-discovery and empowerment that followed. When Lorene shares her story, it's with a blend of candour and humour, shedding light on her past, learning from it, and empowering others to do the same.

The Opening Chapter

Lorene's life story, if described as a book, begins with familial and marital relationships that shaped her in unexpected ways. Her mother, whom she describes as narcissistic, laid a foundation for Lorene's learned behaviours and expectations in relationships. Marrying a man much like her mother proved to be another hurdle, filled with emotional and sexual cruelty, often unseen and untold. Yet, she recounts her past with a sense of humour and an eagerness to share the growth she's achieved since then.

A Journey Through Painful Lessons

In her own words, Lorene discusses how bitterness once coloured her life perspective. She candidly reflects on the internalised notion that accepting less was her fate, a belief that changed as her life shifted dramatically. Her story encompasses a significant moment – a turning point catalysed by Tony Robbins' advice that while you cannot change others, changing yourself can alter the dynamics around you. This insight was transformational. Though initially it felt like a resignation to a life of acceptance, Lorene's story instead turned into one of self-discovery, survival, and eventual resurgence.

Reclaiming Her Life and Self-Worth

Lorene describes the gut-wrenching yet liberating moment when her husband left her. Although it broke her heart, it was the catalyst she needed. It forced her to find resilience and strength, something she discovered while alone and traveling the world. During her travels, she came to realise her value and the integral role she played in her family. She was not, as she once believed, a burden but the linchpin that held everything together. This realisation unlocked her journey of self-worth and self-discovery.

Finding Her Calling

Lorene's passion for self-development was always present but fully ignited after her life-changing separation. She went on to become a holistic counsellor and root cause therapist, roles that allow her to assist others in their journeys towards healing. Through her work, she has touched many lives, offering insights that emanate from her own experiences.

Empowering Others with Hope

If there's one message Lorene leaves us with, it's the power of resilience and determination. Her story is a testament to the belief that one can rise from deep setbacks stronger and more aware than ever. For Lorene, putting herself first, doing the inner work, and walking the walk were crucial steps in her transformation. Lorene hopes to inspire other women to find the strength to change their lives, to believe in themselves, and to embrace their journeys with courage. If you want to work with her you can contact her via her website, LoreneRoberts.com, or you can find her on Facebook, LinkedIn, or YouTube.

Closing Thoughts

In sharing her story, Lorene reminds us that although our past shapes who we are, it doesn’t have to define our future. Her journey of healing and self-belief serves as a beacon of hope for others facing similar struggles. Lorene’s story is a testament to the unyielding spirit of a woman who refused to be defined by her circumstances and instead chose to thrive.

For more insights and stories like Lorene's, stay tuned to the Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali podcast, where we continue to highlight remarkable women and their empowering journeys. If you or anyone you know is experiencing similar hardships, remember, there is hope and help available.

Thank you for reading and being part of this journey.

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Your Journey Begins Here

If you or someone you know is grappling with similar experiences, know that you are not alone. Speak up, seek help, and embrace vulnerability as the beginning of your healing journey. Whether through trusted friends, professionals, or community resources, finding someone you can confide in can be life changing. I know this to be true firsthand.

Resources for Support

If you need additional support after listening to this episode/reading this blog post, you can use the links below to find more information on some places to go:

In an emergency, dial 999; for non-emergencies, dial 101 (UK only)

Find your nearest NHS Sexual Assault Referral Centre (England only)

Find an NHS Talking Therapy service near you (England only)

A doctor or practice nurse at your GP surgery

A voluntary organisation such as Rape Crisis, Women’s Aid, or Victim Support

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