In a powerful and deeply moving episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie Kerali engages in a heartfelt conversation with Poonnamme, a formidable woman who shares her journey as a first-born British-Asian woman breaking generational cycles. Through her incredible story of resilience, adversity, and empowerment, Poonnamme provides a beacon of hope and inspiration to others who may find themselves in similar circumstances.

The Weight of Expectations

Poonnamme's journey begins with the immense pressure of cultural and familial expectations. As the first-born girl, Poonnamme was constantly reminded of the community’s expectations. Navigating these pressures, she faced numerous challenges, including cultural stigmas and the struggle of balancing personal aspirations with traditional family expectations.

A Journey Through Trauma and Healing

This episode delves deeply into harrowing personal experiences including sexual violence and attempted suicide. Poonnamme bravely recounts how she was silenced after a traumatic assault at 17, leading to years of buried pain and unresolved trauma. Despite these challenges, she found strength within herself, catalysed by the birth of her daughter, which sparked a desire to change the trajectory for the next generation.

Supported by pivotal people like her line manager, who believed in her unconditionally, Poonnamme embarked on a healing journey. She navigated physical and emotional trials, shedding old patterns and embracing spirituality as a source of strength and guidance.

Embracing Spirituality and Self-Healing

Poonnamme's story is one of profound spiritual awakening and self-healing over 17 years. Through meditation, spiritual retreats, and embracing ancient practices, she learned to face her shadow self and let go of resentment and anger. Her journey took her on a pilgrimage to sacred lands, where she gained deeper insights into her spirituality, further fuelling her transformation.

The Power of Sharing and Community

Poonnamme emphasises the importance of sharing stories to break generational cycles of silence and shame. Her courage to speak out provides a platform for others to reclaim their voice. She highlights the universal thread of women’s experiences across cultures, urging for unity and collective support to rise together, free from judgment and competition.

Advice for Those Feeling Stuck

Drawing from her personal journey, Poonnamme encourages self-belief and self-love as crucial components in overcoming life's hurdles. Her advice includes seeking inspiration through books, podcasts, retreats, and connecting with like-minded communities. Her message is clear: while the road may not be easy, the power to change one’s life lies within the decisions we make.

Poonnamme’s narrative is a testament to the strength that can be found in vulnerability and the transformative power of choice. Her story urges us to embrace our voices, share our truths, and support each other in the process. Each story shared is a step toward dismantling stigmas and fostering a community grounded in empathy and understanding. Connect with Poonnamme on Instagram (@JagoSacredEnergy) or via her website.

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Your Journey Begins Here

If you or someone you know is grappling with similar experiences, know that you are not alone. Speak up, seek help, and embrace vulnerability as the beginning of your healing journey. Whether through trusted friends, professionals, or community resources, finding someone you can confide in can be life changing. I know this to be true firsthand.

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